OUR UNPLANNED JOURNEY (continued 7)
It’s been almost a year and a half now since my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. We visited the Veteran’s home in Cameron, Mo a year ago to see a friend’s father and take the opportunity to find out what the facility was like. We also knew someone whose husband had Alzheimer’s disease and had lived there at one time. We heard only good reports about the care these men received, but wanted to see it for ourselves.
The city of Cameron describes the facility as follows, “the Cameron, MO Veteran’s home is a state-of-the art facility, which opened in 2000. The home is a veteran-focused environment with excellent food and living accommodations and well as 24-hour daily medical and skilled nursing care. Recreational, physical and rehabilitative therapy, social services and pastoral services are just some of the things this home provides.”
We were pleased to find a modern one-level building with beautiful landscaping. The inside of the building was just as pleasant as the outside and everyone we saw (veterans AND staff) seemed to be happy or content and non-stressed.
When we returned home, my husband said he would like to get on the waiting list in case his Alzheimer’s disease worsens and he couldn’t stay at home anymore. I called the admissions coordinator and she sent me all of the forms to fill out, but I procrastinated for over a year. I finally got them all done and we delivered them this week. It will be at least 10 months before an opening.
Currently, my husband is stable and doing fine at home. Since we don’t know what the future holds (who does?), we are trying to make sure we will have options when needed. Most of our days are pretty routine and normal. We have a saying at our house – “live optimistically/ plan realistically”. We saw this on an advertisement that came in our mail and cut it out and posted it on our refrigerator. We are enjoying life one day at a time and remain optimistic about the future. However, we try to be realistic at the same time.
Who knows? We may never need to consider someplace like the veteran’s home. But, the plan is in place in case we do. It’s good to have that option whether it is 10 months, later or never.
To be continued —-